I woke up at 4:30 am yesterday morning, anxious and weepy. I laid in bed for an hour crying as silently as I could. I didn’t want to get up and disturb the household. Finally, at 5:30 I ventured upstairs and started working on a puzzle to relieve my mind of all my negative thoughts.
I realized my current thoughts and anxiety were linked to past experiences that had affected my life. Let’s flashback to the years 2014 and 2015. Those were the intense years of Stevan’s adoption process from Jamaica. We had to work directly with the Jamaica government, there was no rhyme or reason to when they would review our case. There was no timeline on when it would be complete and Stevan could come and join our family. I had no control!
Yesterday afternoon, I talked to our lawyer after her phone call with the State of Arizona. The State of Arizona wants a continuance of the hearing. Susan, our lawyer, told the state’s attorney all the details that she has prepared in our case. The main grounds that the State of Arizona is basing their case on is “the fear of running out of insulin” Susan, told them that this is not a MEDICAL reason to place Bryson in a skilled nurse group home. Susan’s next words have played in my mind since the phone call “you can’t build a case on a fear you have about the future!” The State wants control!
As I ponder, control seems to be the driving force. It is what I yearn for in many areas of my life. Last fall, while living in the RV, I read The Cost of Control: Why We Crave it, the Anxiety it Gives Us, and the Real Power God Promises by Sharon Hodde Miller. It is a powerful book of truths. Sharon states in the book “The problem is, control is a “devil’s deal.” The more we seek it, the more it betrays us. In place of predictability, it gives us anxiety. In place of certainty, it creates more complexity. And in place of unity, it divides. It’s not just that we cannot control things; it’s that we break them even more when we try.”
It’s easy to get entangled with the need for control. Sadly, it has ruled my life.
My anger is at the State of Arizona, but as God is revealing to me, I need to get mad at satan and to put on my full armor and fight against the principalities, rest on God’s promises and to LET GO AND LET GOD!
A dear friend sent me an email full of the promises from God’s Word on Wednesday.
I will say of the Lord, “He is my refuge and my fortress, my God, in whom I trust.” Psalm 91:2
May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit. Romans 15:13
What next? The State is asking to move the hearing back to August 1. This will give them more time to figure out a good solution for this case. MORE TIME?!?! As of now, the brief statement needs to be submitted by July 18. Susan believes it can be settled by then because the State’s attorney doesn’t want to spend all the time preparing her brief when she knows she can’t win.
Last night, after the phone call I needed time alone and I listened to music while I worked on the puzzle again. The song Hallelujah Anyway by Rend Collective came on.
“Even if my daylight never dawns
Even if my breakthrough never comes
Even if I’ll fight to bring You praise
Even if my dreams fall to the ground
Even if I’m lost, I know I’m found
Even if my heart will somehow say
Hallelujah anyway.”
This morning shortly after I woke up this chant started playing in my mind….
“I believe, I believe, I believe we will win, I believe we will win! (thanks to the Fairfield sports cheering section for this)
Letting go and letting God… it’s hard in the even ifs, it’s hard in the fear, it’s hard in the flashbacks. But the ONE who saved me, will deliver me and HE HAS WON!